I never fully understood the phrase, "worth waiting for." I was the girl that loved to live it all at once. I'd rush into things before even thinking about it which let me say led to a lot of trouble. I had the, "think about it later mentality". I lived the YOLO life before it became a thing and now after making it out of that lifestyle I will be the first person to say the YOLO mentality is a lie from the devil. It's a filter some people decide to put on their life to help make decisions and this by far is the most dangerous and ridiculous thing you can ever do! Your life is precious, you are precious and most importantly God himself values you way too much for you to play Russian Roulette with your life.
But why do people like the YOLO life?
Because it "feels" free and the honest truth is that most young people even in your church, perhaps you today don't feel free. YOLO offers you the opportunity to just do it. See it's easier to just do something than to think of all the consequences. It's almost over bearing for a young person to sit and think of the but "this might happen" and the enemy takes advantage of that! He doesn't want you to think. He just wants you to do because if you think about it you might make a better decision.
But why aren't the youth in the church feeling the freedom?
I'm gonna answer honestly from personal experience. Either they simply don't want to live a life for Christ, hence just being rebellious or they haven't had a real encounter with God. It's one of the 2 and perhaps many can feel the burden of saying, "well I've been going to church my whole life so I don't really know what freedom is". Lie! What they're really saying is, "I don't really know what it is to live a sinful life without regrets and I might want to try it".
Dear sister or brother if you're reading this, as a Christian, even if you leave the church you will never be able to sin in peace I can assure you of that. To the others saying they don't know freedom I say where is your genuine relationship with God?
The gospel isn't an oppression. If anything the fear of God is the beginning of freedom! To understand that a real genuine relationship with the almighty must take place and if you don't feel very free then it's time to evaluate your relationship with God on an honest level.
All of this lurks beneath the questions that we fear might unravel if we begin to tug on the string of our emotions.
For my ladies impatient for marriage, a boyfriend, or simply living out your life/ministry the most important thing you can do and the best decision you can make is the hardest.
To just be patient.
I was not patient. I wanted to inhale life as a whole and be immersed in what I considered freedom only to find myself more chained up than ever. Seeking real love, honest people and something rarely seen now a days, integrity. People in the world don't care, many lack the understanding of love and noble hearts are scarce. Understand that it takes time to for all of these beautiful valuable things to come into your life and God wants it all for you! The great ministry, dreamy husband, amazing job, cute kids and white picket fence house. He wants that and more because his word is true. There are good plans for you and He above all things loves you dearly.
He has better plans for you than you can think of for yourself but it takes patience to get there. After letting myself go into the YOLO lifestyle and coming out of it (which was very very hard) I remember telling God when I wanted to "find a man." Lol That I wanted Him to choose. I acknowledged all the times before that I had made decisions without Him and how I wanted this to be different. I don't think I ever prayed as hard in my life. I was giving up my will and was so afraid of what might happen but I wasn't willing to go back.
Little did I know what amazing plans he had for me. Indeed the verse lived out in my life.
Joey (my husband) came at the most unexpected time in the most unexpected of places but it was as if I had been waiting for him my whole life. I saw something in him the first moment I laid eyes on him, something that scared me and captivated me at the same time. I remember I was nervous and couldn't breath which is not typical of me. The world seemed different for just a moment. I didn't understand what was happening. It use to be hard to explain but now I know what that was. It was God showing me that he was for me and I for him.
We were two previous YOLO living people yearning to live honestly for Christ and in the middle of our reconstruction God introduced us to each other. Together with broken hearts and broken pasts we were mended into something truly remarkable. Something that only God in His perfection can plan. We saw our plans incredibly blessed even monetarily, we trusted him and as our lives began to unravel our futures were interlinked by family, people and places from our past. It's honestly a crazy story and somewhat unbelievable. But that's what God does, unbelievable, remarkable things.
Meeting my husband and raising a family together has led me to finally understand why it's so important to wait in life. For whatever that might be. Gods timing isn't just excellent. It's perfect!
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